Quiz: Intimacy and Marital Drift

QUESTION 1

The ________ theory conceives of mate selection as an open market in which individuals try to find the best mate they can, given what they have to offer

Dyadic-formation

Stimulus-value-role

Filter

The wheel and clock-spring

2 points

QUESTION 2

Stories of faith and redemption cause us to

Avoid sin

Understand God

Increase intimacy

All of the above

2 points

QUESTION 3

The Christian perspective of mate selection, according to Balswick & Balswick, follows which order?

		Mutual commitment, increased grace, mutual empowering
		Mutual commitment, mutual empowering, increased grace
		Increased grace, mutual commitment, mutual empowering
		Increased grace, mutual empowering, mutual commitment

2 points

QUESTION 4

Nothing lasts on this earth-everything breaks down and comes to naught.

True

False

2 points

QUESTION 5

Based on our presenter as he describes grief recovery, time heals all grief, as opposed to doing anything about the grief/loss.

True

False

2 points

QUESTION 6

The Clinton & Sibcy textbook explains that since each of us has our own share of human frailties, husbands and wives intentionally, and more often, unintentionally cause one another pain. This happens to couples with which of the following attachment styles?

Ambivalent

Avoidant

Disorganized

No attachment style is void of causing pain in marriage

2 points

QUESTION 7

Cleaving makes two incomplete people into a whole marriage.

True

False

2 points

QUESTION 8

The textbook (Clinton & Sibcy) refers to the typical pattern of hurting couples as pursue-withdraw. Which of the following is not one thing the authors suggest must be considered in order for couples to move into a healthier relationship?

The stories behind the reactions

Being willing to be the first to change.

The emotions involved

The “testing” of waters to see if the spouse really cares

2 points

QUESTION 9

Role Playing

		Occurs before marriage and is when each individual formulates in their minds a role for themselves and a role for the person they are to marry
		Is the process of actually assuming the role of spouse and acting the part which has only been imagined up to this point.
		Occurs as the person experiencing and performing it subjectively defines the roles of the marriage partners
		None of the above

2 points

QUESTION 10

According to the Balswick & Balswick, in the definition of power, the emphasis is placed

		Upon the person’s ability to decrease the power of the other
		Upon the ability or potential to influence
		Upon the actual exercising of the ability
		Upon the person’s attempt to control the behavior of another.

2 points

QUESTION 11

According to the Clinton & Sibcy textbook, difficulties in marriage can arise from crowded schedules, money pressure, communication problems, and also from

unresolved relational hurts

anger towards children

having an ambivalent attachment style

an unclear future

2 points

QUESTION 12

Completion compulsion refers to the idea of marriage as something to help me become a whole person.

True

False

2 points

QUESTION 13

According to the course text (Clinton & Sibcy), when we are free of the external and internal influences that cloud our true desires, we realize that we truly crave to be seen, known, understood and __________.

Listened to

Valued

Be spoken to

Recognized

2 points

QUESTION 14

The family systems perspective

		is a holistic approach that understands every part of family life
		looks at the family as an identifiable whole composed of interrelated individual parts
		can be thought of as a series of circles reverberating from the center
		all of the above

2 points

QUESTION 15

According to the Marital Drift presentation, the number one breakdown in marriage according to Michelle Weiner Davis is…

finances.

parenting differences.

when couples don’t spend enough time together.

personality differences.

2 points

QUESTION 16

When considering how to create a comfortable child, it is important to let the child “cry it out” from time to time. Why is this important?

		It gives them the chance to sort through their issues without help, building up autonomy
		Some children are fussy, and not coming to them every time helps them to know that they can’t always get what they want
		Some children have actually been found to be manipulative, and so not coming to them every time teaches them to be respectful
		The parent should not simply let the child “cry it out.” Attention should always be given to the child’s fussing.

2 points

QUESTION 17

Which of the following is not something learned from God’s establishing a covenant with Noah and Abraham?

		God was not offering either Noah or Abraham any choice in the matter.
		God extended the covenant to more than two individuals.
		God desired and commanded a response from both Noah and Abraham.
		Both the covenant and the potential blessings are unconditional.

2 points

QUESTION 18

Which of the following should the victim extend to the offender who is not repentant?

Reconciliation

Forgiveness

Lecture

Rejection

2 points

QUESTION 19

Genesis 2:24 is the great marital passage that instructs couples to:

Leave

Weave

Cleave

All the Above

2 points

QUESTION 20

The Speaker Listener Technique explains rules for helping couples talk to one another. These include…

		The speaker literally has the floor.
		The speaker shares the floor.
		The speaker, speaks for themselves.
		The listener paraphrases what is heard without rebuttal. There is no arguing, but listening.

2 points

QUESTION 21

Authority in Christian marriages involves

authoritarianism

mutual/dual submission

an absence of authority

male-centeredness

2 points

QUESTION 22

The seasons of marriage according to our presentation are…

		The honeymoon, marriage with young children, married with adolescent children, launching, and the retirement/empty nest phase.
		The honeymoon, marriage with young children, married with school aged children, launching, and the retirement/empty nest phase.
		The honeymoon, marriage with young children, married with adolescent children, and the retirement/empty nest phase.
		The honeymoon, marriage with young children, married with adolescent children, college prep, and the retirement/empty nest phase.

2 points

QUESTION 23

According to our presentation, couples may feel disconnected or like strangers during the __________ stage due to their relationship being neglected due to children.

2 points

QUESTION 24

Research indicates that regardless of whether we agree with the way our parents handled their marriage or parenting responsibilities, when a similar situation arises in our own family…

		we are inclined to behave in the opposite manner
		our spontaneous reaction will be to behave exactly as our parents did
		we are prone to going to our parents for their advice
		none of the above

2 points

QUESTION 25

Intimacy is a multi modal experience.

True

False

2 points

QUESTION 26

When considering arguments and fights, what is most important to success and longevity in marriage?

How often they fight

What they fight about

How long they fight (duration)

How they fight

2 points

QUESTION 27

Assimilation

is a process in which two separate entities become one

an agreement by two separate entities to be different

does not follow the biblical model of a marriage

both a and c

2 points

QUESTION 28

Barring major problems, sexual satisfaction tends to increase over time.

True

False

2 points

QUESTION 29

A person who follows a destructive path of self-blame or bitterness is likely to say which of the following statements?

There is a wound, but I am at fault.

Why me?

I am responsible for what happened to me.

All of the above statements are likely

2 points

QUESTION 30

The ________ emphasis of the past has shifted to a(n) ________ emphasis in present day.

collective; individualistic

individualistic; collective

covenantal; individualistic

covenantal; collective

		Dyadic-formation
		Stimulus-value-role
		Filter
		The wheel and clock-spring

		Ambivalent
		Avoidant
		Disorganized
		No attachment style is void of causing pain in marriage

		The stories behind the reactions
		Being willing to be the first to change.
		The emotions involved
		The “testing” of waters to see if the spouse really cares

		unresolved relational hurts
		anger towards children
		having an ambivalent attachment style
		an unclear future

		finances.
		parenting differences.
		when couples don’t spend enough time together.
		personality differences.

		authoritarianism
		mutual/dual submission
		an absence of authority
		male-centeredness

		How often they fight
		What they fight about
		How long they fight (duration)
		How they fight

		is a process in which two separate entities become one
		an agreement by two separate entities to be different
		does not follow the biblical model of a marriage
		both a and c

		There is a wound, but I am at fault.
		Why me?
		I am responsible for what happened to me.
		All of the above statements are likely

		collective; individualistic
		individualistic; collective
		covenantal; individualistic
		covenantal; collective

		Avoid sin
		Understand God
		Increase intimacy
		All of the above

		Listened to
		Valued
		Be spoken to
		Recognized

		Reconciliation
		Forgiveness
		Lecture
		Rejection

		Leave
		Weave
		Cleave
		All the Above

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